I get asked by parents a lot how to make media choices with and for their kids. What shows should they watch, what music should they listen to. Here are some helpful questions for parents to ask taken from Give them Grace.
Does this media outlet have any redeeming value to it? In other words, is there any way that we can use it to illustrate the one good story? Are the great themes of the gospel apparent (even though it may not be a “Christian” production)?
Are our children unduly influenced by this movie or program? Do they mimic inappropriate words or phrases after spending time interacting with it?
Are our children able to articulate what is lacking in this video or song? Do they see how it is contrary to the gospel? Are they able to tell you where they see the one good story in it?
What is your child’s attitude when he’s denied access to this program? Has it become an idol in his heart, a god that promises him happiness?
Is there any way that you can demonstrate a willingness to compromise with your child over this song? For instance, instead of saying no to an entire album, perhaps you could find a couple of songs on it that would be acceptable.
Are you being ruled by fear of what might happen if your child watches or listens to this program or album? Or, are you able to think clearly about the influence the entertainment may or may not have over your child?
It has a powerhouse group behind it with Matt Damon, Clint Eastwood and Morgan Freeman. Really hard to mess a movie up with that line up.
This quite possibly was the best example of leadership ever in a film. It follows the rise of Nelson Mandela to president and how he transitioned South Africa. What was incredible was how Nelson Mandela led by example of reconciliation and forgiveness. It is hard to argue with example.
He really was what Jim Collins calls a “Level 5 Leader.” It is definitely a movie that every leader should see.
Great story. Great music. Really inspiring and entertaining.
For us, it was fascinating on a few levels. We’ve been talking a lot recently in our relationship about marriage and kids because in the fall we are doing a series called I Want a New Marriage and right now we are leading a small group through the book God, Marriage & Family. The movie is definitely an entertaining look at marriages in our culture.
The movie centers around 8 friends, broken up into 4 couples. By the end of the movie there are 5 couples and not quite 10 friends, but that’s not the point of this.
What I found fascinating was how the entire movie, what laid underneath many of the conflicts, arguments and strife within relationships had to do with communication issues and role confusion. Literally, all the problems the couples experienced in this movie and I would venture to say most couples in America their problems come back to communication issues and role confusion.
Many couples struggle with communication and consequently, they end up arguing about the wrong things or fighting incorrectly. For example, when your spouse does something that drives you nuts and you fly off the handle, ask yourself, “Am I angry about this or what this reminds me of?” Many of us lash out at people today because of hurt in our past we have not dealt with.
The other problem is many of us do not know how to fight correctly. We fight to win. This is how you lose. Fight to understand, fight to come to an answer or agreement. You also need to learn how your spouse fights best. Do they need to talk something out right away? Do they need space to cool off? To think? Figure out what each of you need and then do that. For Katie, she wants to talk about it right away. I need space to figure out my thoughts and cool down. When we have a disagreement, we don’t talk about it right away, we set up a time to talk about it (soon) so we can deal with it.
Role confusion. This is the biggest problem in marriages today. No one knows what a husband does or what a wife does. Many people don’t even know what they don’t want to do. In the end, no one is doing what they are gifted and called to do and nothing works as it should. Katie wrote recently about what a wife does and here are my thoughts on what a man does. The Bible is very clear on what men and women are to do in a marriage. Stick to them.
What will often happen is a woman will do what a man is supposed to do along with her roles. The problem? If you take a man’s role away, he will not reciprocate and take on the wife’s role. She will do double duty. Is that fair? No, but if both we’re doing their God given roles it wouldn’t be an issue. Before you get angry, men will often take their wife’s role away as well or, this is the problem most of the time, he will do his role incorrectly, which keeps her from fulfilling her role.
It really is Clint Eastwood at his best, directing and starring.
Eastwood is in his late 70′s, a war vet, living in a neighborhood in Detroit that has changed over the years and an incredible racist. The movie gets at the pain in his life, the prejudice’s that he carries and how he confronts those two demons.