Ava turned 6 yesterday. One of the things I do each year is write a letter to my kids.
One of the roles I think Dad’s should play is helping to write the story of their kids lives. When kids get older, what will they remember. They might remember trips and things that happen, but what about the small things in their lives? How their personality developed, how they started a relationship with Jesus, what shaped them. So, each year I sit down and write a letter chronicling that year in the life of our child.
It is also helpful for me as I think through the pace of the life of our family. I believe that Katie and I work together on our schedules, but one of the roles of a father is to help make sure the family is pacing well. Are they in a busy season? Slow season? Doing too many activities? This helps me look back over the year as well as I chronicle it for our kids.
I just finished Ava’s 6th letter. Crazy that she is 6.
This was a major year for Ava. She started kindergarten and is now reading, writing and counting. We homeschool her, largely because of the schedule and pace of our family, but I love what is has done for our family, the input we have into her life and education. This was also the year that we really saw Ava’s heart change and open to the gospel. You can see how the Holy Spirit is changing her and how her 6 year old faith is growing.
I’m still blown away how fast 6 years go, but I am reminded of how important of a role I play as a father. I believe the view many kids have of God comes out of their view of their earthly father. The way Ava will allow men to treat her will be developed through how I treat her, but more importantly, how she sees me interact, love and pursue Katie.
Dads, I’d encourage you to tell the story of your kids lives. Even if you haven’t started, start now. I look forward to the day Ava graduates from high school and I hand her a stack of letters that help to remind of who she is, where she has come from and the grace God has shown to her and us in our lives.