Links for Your Weekend Reading

Links I Like is a collection of blogs, articles and books I’ve come across recently and thought they were worth sharing. Click here for past Links I Like.

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9 lies in the not married life.

Singleness’s greatest sorrows are secretly reinforced every February in the souls of the not-yet-married still waiting for their wedding day. While many of our friends and family are inundated with dates, flowers, chocolate, and love notes, lots and lots of the valentine-less are overwhelmed with everything from impatience to bitterness, from shame to regret to confusion.

Rick Thomas on 5 sure fire ways to motivate your son to look at pornography.

Porn is first and foremost about the theater of the mind, where the young male can enter into his virtual world and be king for a day—or, in this case, king for a few minutes—as he satiates his mind with the risk-free intrigue of the cyber conquest.

Barnabas Piper on Why PK’s often hate the ministry and why so many are now in ministry.

Here’s what I learned from those PKs:

  • God’s grace is bigger than our frustrations and hurts (imposed on us or self-imposed) and bigger than our parents’ mistakes.
  • When we see mistakes our parents make that have hurt us or shaped us in ways we don’t like we become responsible for how we respond, either to follow Christ or not.
  • Whether or not our parents did a good job, being a PK is a unique blessing and creates an opportunity to serve God’s people that most don’t get.
  • The church is God’s people and part of God’s plan; to abandon it is to abandon what God has put in place.
  • Honoring our fathers and mothers is a really big deal and a really valuable thing. No, it doesn’t mean we must agree with them or imitate them, but it does mean we cannot resent them.
  • With few exceptions, our parents love us deeply. It’s worth figuring out how to connect with that love instead of holding on to hurt.

How Bill Hybels advises pastors and leaders to think about the Sunday service.

“Imagine if I could give you a newsflash, that the person you’ve been trying to invite to church for the last 3 years is coming this Sunday.” With those opening words, Willow Creek Community Church senior pastor Bill Hybels grabbed the attention of the 1000 leaders gathered at the Church Leadership Conference in Riga, Latvia. But Bill would then ask, and answer, a question that every church leader must come to terms with:  “What are you hoping will happen to that woman or that man during that one hour church service?”

Dan Black on How to maximize your personal growth time.

The most common reason I hear as to why a leader does not invest in personal growth is because they don’t have the time for it. Personal growth does not happen by chance but requires a few key ingredients.

Growing leaders crave silence and solitude.

When was the last time you had meaningful time alone?

No meetings, no appointments. No phone buzzing. No music in your ear buds. No distractions.

Just stillness. Solitude.

My guess is for many of us the answer is it’s been a while.

What if I told you that your effectiveness and maybe even your longevity as a leader depended directly on finding and establishing regular periods of solitude?

Keri Seavey on Your spouse is not Jesus.

Both husband and wife often start life together, from authentic love and commitment (and a bit of naïve self-assessment), blissfully aiming to meet or exceed every spoken or perceived expectation placed before them in their desire for a great marriage. They may even maintain their success for a while. Yet, given time, we all bump up against our (and our spouse’s) weaknesses, limitations, and tenacious self-centeredness. This is when things begin to get messy.

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Links I Like

Links I Like is a collection of blogs, articles and books I’ve come across recently and thought they were worth sharing. Click here for past Links I Like.

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  1. Eric Simmons on I hate porn, I love Jesus.
  2. The difference between buzzwords and leadership.
  3. Melissa Kruger on The loving intolerance of God.
  4. How some not famous pastors prep a sermon. Great wisdom here.
  5. Carey Nieuwhof on 3 essentials for a leader’s inner circle. As a leader, the people closest to you is one of the most important decisions you will make.
  6. Brian Dodd on 10 practices of leaders of fast growing churches.
  7. Dan Reiland on 10 basic people skills leaders should have.
  8. Why I believe in the doctrine of election.

Jimmy Fallon’s Best Musical Impersonations

Links I Like

Links I Like is a collection of blogs, articles and books I’ve come across recently and thought they were worth sharing. Click here for past Links I Like.

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  1. Jonathan Parnell on Figuring out what is God’s will for my life?
  2. Why team alignment is so important.
  3. Todd Rhodes on What churches can learn from Google killing Google reader. Lots of insights, I’m sad as I love google reader, but a great leadership move.
  4. If you read this blog through Google Reader, you’ll want to update to Feedly, now that Google Reader is shutting down.
  5. 5 insights behind North Point’s success.
  6. Ed Stetzer on Whether or not the church needs to “get with the times.”
  7. 3 practical ways to increase giving at your church.

Som Sabadell Flashmob

Links I Like

Links I Like is a collection of blogs, articles and books I’ve come across recently and thought they were worth sharing. Click here for past Links I Like
  1. Leaders must slow down when things speed up. Great reminder.
  2. Jeff Vanderstelt on What a Christian man is to be.
  3. The life of an NFL undrafted rookie. This is simply interesting, especially if you love football.
  4. Walt Mueller on Kids and viewing pornography.

Links of the Week

  1. Tim Challies on Should Christians embrace evolution?
  2. What Christians hope for in preaching. This was an eye opening article based on a study of 10,000 persons who attend church and what they hope to get from preaching.
  3. 11 books every leader needs to read according to Al Mohler.
  4. D.A. Carson and John Piper on How to teach the Bible confidence.
  5. How boys become Christians men.
  6. Ron Edmondson on how he accomplishes so much. I agree with him on this secret, helps a ton.
  7. A warning to women from a woman concerning marriage.
  8. The New York Times on How the deficit got this big.
  9. Titus 2 is not just a woman’s to do list.
  10. Justin Taylor on It only takes one generation for a church to die.
  11. Beware of romantic pornography. So true.
  12. 9 things your pastor wants to say to you but won’t.
  13. Steven Furtick on Ambition vs. Arrogance.
  14. Kevin DeYoung on biblical manhood. Helpful stuff here, a good preview to our next series at Revolution.
  15. Jeff Vanderstelt on Gospel fluent thinking.
  16. 25 ways to engage your neighbors. As we challenge people at Revolution to be on mission, this is a big part of it.
  17. Motherhood, sacrifice, and worship.

Links of the Week

  1. Can you convince my husband or wife to stay? I get this almost monthly from a man or a woman, it is hard and painful but only Jesus changes hearts.
  2. Mark Driscoll on The gender issue. I believe this is one of the biggest issues facing the American church today and into the future. We need to answer the questions of our culture.
  3. 5 reasons your church isn’t growing.
  4. The gospel coalition on Ministry and depression part 1 and part 2. This is a helpful series as many pastor’s deal with depression.
  5. Motherhood is a calling (and where your children rank). I’m convinced that one of the best places to figure out idols and identities in someone’s life is to look at roles in marriage and parenting. I told a pastor the other day, whenever I preach on it, my email box fills up faster than any other topic, because of the tie to identity and idols.
  6. Why you might be an ear tickling preacher (or an ear tickling church attendee).
  7. Anthony Bradley on Libel is not love. How to criticize well.
  8. Las Vegas church files for bankruptcy. This is not a great message to send. Where is the integrity of this church?
  9. Mobile stats that affect ministry. Churches need to figure out how to be more and more mobile as our world is more and more focused on the mobile web as these stats show.
  10. Matt Chandler, Kevin DeYoung, Jonathan Leeman and Trevin Wax discuss the mission of the church. Definitely worth watching.
  11. Bob Kelleman on Facing depression with Jesus.

Why Love for God is Not a Vague Feeling

St. Augustine prays:

My love of you, O Lord, is not some vague feeling: it is positive and certain. Your word struck into my heart and from that moment I loved you. Besides this, all about me, heaven and earth and all that they contain proclaim that I should love you, and their message never ceases to sound in the ears of all mankind, so that there is no excuse for any not to love you. But, more than all this, you will show pity on those whom you pity; you will show mercy where you are merciful; for if it were not for your mercy, heaven and earth would cry your praises to deaf ears.

Confessions, trans. R. S. Pine-Coffin, (New York: Penguin, 1961), X.6, 211.

HT: Desiring God

Links of the Week

  1. Tim Challies on What we can learn from the Rob Bell controversy. Helpful things on criticism here.
  2. Steven Furtick on Why pastor’s should take several weeks off in the summer. This is why I take several weekends off in a row each summer. So important for me, my family and our church.
  3. Charles Stone on Why a pastor should do sermon prep outside of the office. Couldn’t agree more.
  4. Craig Groeschel on Why it’s important for your family to unplug occasionally.
  5. Perry Noble on 7 things to do to raise a Godly daughter.
  6. But, “I’m too busy to be missional.”
  7. Will Mancini on Questions to ask on your summer break. I’m excited to work through these in a few weeks when I have my summer preaching break.
  8. Dealing with the preacher’s adrenaline meltdown. Preaching can be killer on your body because of the adrenaline. Here are some helpful things to work through. If you don’t preach, read this to see what those who preach go through each week.
  9. Homosexuality and the Gospel.

Links to Start Your Week

Since I was out of the office last week, I skipped this, so I have a ton for this week. So, here are some links to start your week:

  1. Motherhood as a mission field. Whenever I hear a woman say, “I’m just a wife and a mom” I want to scream. Somehow, we have taken one of the greatest callings God gave and made it an afterthought. It matters for generations to come what you do as a wife and a mom (and what you don’t do).
  2. Thabiti Anyabwile on Don’t skip church this summer.
  3. While male politicians (leaders) are more prone to scandal.
  4. How Tim Keller’s church are planning for life after Tim Keller.