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One Reason You Don’t Reach Your Goals

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Depending on your personality or how you were brought up, you probably fall into one of two camps when it comes to your life and goals. You either plan everything out, taking away every possible surprise, thinking through every worst case scenario so that you are prepared for whatever life throws at you. Or, you fly by the seat of your pants.

Are You a Planner?

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If you still aren’t sure which one you are (or if you think, I’m both), imagine this scenario: You get in the passenger seat of a friend’s car and have no idea where you are going. How long does it take you to get stressed out? Some of you have hives just from the thought.

One isn’t necessarily right or wrong in all situations.

The reality is, we all have goals. We all have hopes and dreams for our lives and those around us.

I’ve been reading through Proverbs recently, and I’ve been blown away by how many verses talk about planning and thinking ahead or getting advice from others. Here are just a few:

  • Where there is no guidance, the people fall; but in abundance of counselors, there is victory. -Proverbs 11:14
  • A wise man thinks ahead; a fool doesn’t, and even brags about it. -Proverbs 13:16
  • Without consultation, plans are frustrated, but with many counselors, they succeed. -Proverbs 15:22
  • Make plans by seeking advice; if you wage war, obtain guidance. -Proverbs 20:18
  • The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty. -Proverbs 21:5
  • A prudent man foresees the difficulties ahead and prepares for them; the simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences. -Proverbs 22:3
  • Get the facts at any price, and hold on tightly to all the good sense you can get. -Proverbs 23:23
  • Any enterprise is built by wise planning, becomes strong through common sense, and profits wonderfully by keeping abreast of the facts. -Proverbs 24:3-4

Is it possible to plan God out of your life and future? Yes, and lots of people do it. We can make too many plans, think through every possibility so that we don’t need God’s guidance and power.

It is also possible to miss the work God wants to do because of poor planning.

Opportunities are missed because a budget wasn’t put together or stuck to. We miss out on opportunities or dreams because we didn’t have the money to take advantage of something or say yes to something.

Many marriages and relationships grow stale because we start going through the motions instead of planning the way we used to when we dated.

A wise person goes to God, has a plan, works from a plan, is willing to modify that plan as life unfolds. A wise person never walks into a situation unsure about what to do. They also live with the awareness that they may have to pivot when things don’t go as expected.

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3 Tips for Preaching the Book of Daniel

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I just wrapped up a series on the book of Daniel. You can see the sermons and resources here.

Because I get asked a lot by pastors about sermon prep, putting a series together, making the Bible relevant, I thought I’d share three tips to preaching the book of Daniel.

Why?

The book of Daniel is not one that many pastors preach through. In researching it, I found most people who preach through Daniel stop at chapter 6. I’ll be honest; it’s tempting to do. The first six chapters are filled with narrative, extraordinary faith, prayer, and God doing incredible miracles. The last six chapters are filled with visions, revelations, images that are debated and a lot of head scratching.

1. The book is about God, not Daniel, the end times or your church. Yes, the book of Daniel has a lot about the end of the world (especially if you are a dispensationalist), but spending your time on this does a disservice to the book and your church.

The word king or kingdom is used over 150 times in the book of Daniel. That is the theme, that is the battleground of the book. While it’s tempting to focus on Daniel and his life and faith are an essential part of the book, the book is about God and his power. The book is about the temptation to worship something or someone other than God.

2. Don’t get stuck in the weeds. Daniel, like the book of Revelation, is filled with a lot of images. These images are fascinating, confusing and debated. One of the things we decided at the beginning is that we wouldn’t get into the timeline debate that centers on Daniel. You can see how we handled chapter 9 (which is one of the most hotly debated passages in the Bible).

Are there people in your church who want to debate the end of the world, when Jesus returns, who the anti-Christ is? Yes. What we asked was: What are these passages trying to tell us? For us, they came back to who God is and what His character is, so we focused on that. What do these passages tell us about God, because that is what God was communicating with Daniel?

3. Tell people about God’s character and power. Preaching through Daniel, especially when you talk about the lion’s den and furnace, for those who are skeptical about God, these are passages that make you scratch your head. I had multiple conversations with people wrestling with, “Do you believe that happened?”

These passages, the images in the visions and dreams are about the power of God and his character, who He is.

Your church needs to hear those things, and it is an excellent opportunity to show the relevance of them.

Many sermons today, and I’m all for this, are based on felt needs and speak to what the people in your church are struggling with and walking through in their lives. Focusing on who God is, while not a question they are asking, is the question they need answering and is the hope to what men and women are struggling with when they walk into church.

This power not only catalyzed the faith of Daniel but can do the same thing for your church.

One of the most significant examples of this is how much Daniel prayed in the book. While I was preparing for the series, I missed this, but as I was preaching through it, it stood out boldly in the book.

Several times we’re told, “Daniel prayed as was his habit” (or something similar to that). That’s important. When Daniel came up against struggles and power, he prayed to a God he trusted and had the power to save him.

Daniel is a book every pastor should preach through. It is so relevant to our day and age as we struggle to live out our faith in a culture that is opposed to it. It is a book that reminds us of the God we serve and the power He has.

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232 Leadership Quotes from the 2018 Leadership Summit

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Every year, my team and I attend the leadership summit. To capture what I’m learning and to help you grow as a leader, I always share my notes from each session, so be sure to check back after each session and bookmark them for future use.

Below, you will find all the posts from all the sessions I attended this year. Thanks for reading along!

  1. 32 Leadership Quotes from Craig Groeschel on what it means to be a leader people love to follow.
  2. 16 Leadership Quotes from Angela Ahrendts on how empathy is an essential quality to great leadership.
  3. 14 Leadership Quotes from Juliet Funt on legacy.
  4. 20 Leadership Quotes from Strive Masiyiwa on what it means to be a leader who perseveres to fight for the future of our world.
  5. 11 Leadership Quotes from T.D. Jakes.
  6. 26 Leadership Quotes from Carla Harris on how to achieve your potential and become the leader you were created to be.
  7. 10 Leadership Quotes from Danny Meyer on creating a customer-focused culture, which churches can always grow in.
  8. 23 Leadership Quotes from Danielle Strickland on men and women in the workplace (and church) and looked at the challenges associated with power dynamics in organizational culture.
  9. 21 Leadership Quotes from John Maxwell on how to maximize your impact as a high-character leader in our world today.
  10. 12 Leadership Quotes from Rasmus Ankersen on the mindset cultivated by successful brands to create sustainable success in our organizations.
  11. 8 Leadership Quotes from David Livermore on how leaders can relate effectively to diverse situations.
  12. 16 Leadership Quotes from Sheila Heen on how to navigate difficult conversations on our teams.
  13. 23 Leadership Quotes from Erwin McManus on what it means to lead a life that matters and how great leaders intentionally build the future.
  14. My 5 biggest takeaways from the summit.

 

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5 Biggest Personal Takeaways from the Leadership Summit

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Every year, my team and I attend the leadership summit. This year, there is a shadow hanging over the summit as I outlined here, but I’m still trusting that it will have some incredibly helpful content, just like in past years. To capture what I’m learning and to help you grow as a leader, I shared my notes from each session, which you can read here. I wanted to share some of the biggest personal takeaways I had. If you haven’t already, I would encourage you if you attended the summit to process your learnings with your team and use that as a way forward for your team.

  1. Leaders need a heart to care. This is the difference between me centered leadership and you centered leadership. Leaders need to notice people and let them know they matter. To thank people for what they do. This is hard for me as I want to get things done and can easily run through tasks.
  2. Leaders should ask what would I want to hear from others. It is so important to understand what people feel from you. This was a big theme in the first session. I love this question, what would I want people to say to me? Often, leaders struggle to know how to complement or celebrate people, but asking this question is a great place to start.
  3. Think bigger. T.D. Jakes’s session on vision was my favorite session. The longer you are in a church or an organization, it is difficult to think big or have a big vision. It’s easy to get lost in the details of work. There are now more people counting on you, not just your family but also a staff whose livelihoods depend on you and your company. But vision is crucial. It is what gives you purpose and what excites those who follow you. I can’t wait to dive into Jakes’s new book Soar. 
  4. Not all data is the same. Rasmus Ankersen talked about soccer in Europe and how all data and stats are not the same. For churches, this is huge. For churches, there are numbers and things that are happening that are more important than other things. There are also things that tell you more things than other things. He talked about one of the big problems for companies is outcome bias which is good results are always the result of superior decision making.
  5. Fear. Erwin McManus’s talk was the talk of the summit. His idea that we are terrified that we will never become all that we could be spoke so powerfully to me. This is the battle for all of us, but especially leaders.
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2018 Leadership Summit – 23 Leadership Quotes from Erwin McManus

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Every year, my team and I attend the leadership summit. This year, there is a shadow hanging over the summit as I outlined here, but I’m still trusting that it will have some incredibly helpful content, just like in past years. To capture what I’m learning and to help you grow as a leader, I always share my notes from each session, so be sure to check back after each session and bookmark them for future use.

The second session of the second day featured a talk by Erwin McManus. He looked at what it means to lead a life that matters and how great leaders intentionally build the future.

The following are some takeaways:

  1. The greatest battles we fight are within ourselves.
  2. We are afraid that we have something inside of us that will never be actualized.
  3. We’re haunted that we might never live up to what is inside of us.
  4. We know our life is supposed to matter and were scared it won’t.
  5. If you put your life in God’s hand, it will go further than you could ever go on your own.
  6. I’m amazed at how many people need permission to get started but no one needs permission to quit.
  7. You need to treat every moment and day as sacred and essential.
  8. Your freedom is on the other side of your fears. 
  9. The things of God can only be accessed if you will step through your fears.
  10. If you don’t deal with the paralyzing fear, you will never reach where you supposed to be.
  11. So many of us only have the structure to lead when the world is at peace and things are easy.
  12. Your greatness is on the other side of your pain. 
  13. What you fear has mastery over your life.
  14. What you fear establishes the boundaries of your freedom.
  15. A lot of think our pain is the boundary of our limitations. Our pain is the boundary of our greatness.
  16. We need to learn how to walk in our pain.
  17. If you aren’t alive before death, you will be afraid of death.
  18. For many people, their pain will define them.
  19. Your future is on the other side of your failures. 
  20. People always want to define us by our worst moments.
  21. God does not define you by your worst moments, he defines you by His best moments.
  22. We want God to meet us in our faith but He meets us in our faithfulness. 
  23. Your faith doesn’t make life easier, your faith makes you stronger.
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2018 Leadership Summit – 16 Leadership Quotes from Sheila Heen

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Every year, my team and I attend the leadership summit. This year, there is a shadow hanging over the summit as I outlined here, but I’m still trusting that it will have some incredibly helpful content, just like in past years. To capture what I’m learning and to help you grow as a leader, I always share my notes from each session, so be sure to check back after each session and bookmark them for future use.

The first session of the second day featured a talk by Sheila Heen, who is the Founder of the Triad Consulting Group and on the Faculty of the Harvard Law School. Her talk focused on a process to navigate difficult conversations on our teams.

The following are some takeaways:

  1. To the extent that you have difficult conversations as a leader, it says that you care a lot about what you are doing and having the most significant impact you can and that you care a lot about the people you are doing it with.
  2. In difficult conversations, we have to look beyond what we’re saying and look at what is in our internal voice and what we’re feeling.
  3. Difficult conversations are when our internal voice is turned up too loudly.
  4. People’s internal voices are pre-occupied with predictable things every time.
  5. Every difficult conversation has the same underlying structure.
  6. The story in our head is driven by key questions: who’s right (What feels safe, what I can defend)? Who’s fault is it (the fault tells us who the problem is)? Why is the other person acting this way (what are their intentions, why are they being so difficult)?
  7. The more frustrated we are about the other person, the more likely we are to tell a negative story and think that something is wrong with them.
  8. By the time something becomes a difficult conversation, we have a business problem and how we each feel treated by the other.
  9. The deeper problem (how we treat each other) will come up another time.
  10. Identity is the story we tell about who we are and what the situation suggests about us: am I competent, am I worthy of love and respect?
  11. The first step to a difficult conversation is changing the story you’re telling in your head.
  12. Instead of asking who’s right, ask what we think this conversation is about.
  13. Instead of asking who’s fault is it, ask what did we do to contribute to this situation.
  14. Contribution can be reasonable things to do, they just didn’t help.
  15. Instead of asking why are they acting this way, to separate intentions from the impact.
  16. To influence other people, be open to influence yourself.
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2018 Leadership Summit – 8 Leadership Quotes from David Livermore

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Every year, my team and I attend the leadership summit. This year, there is a shadow hanging over the summit as I outlined here, but I’m still trusting that it will have some incredibly helpful content, just like in past years. To capture what I’m learning and to help you grow as a leader, I always share my notes from each session, so be sure to check back after each session and bookmark them for future use.

The first session of the second day featured a talk by David Livermore. He’s the President of the Cultural Intelligence Center and a Best-selling Author. He shared research on how leaders can relate effectively to diverse situations. It was fascinating.

The following are some takeaways:

  1. It is our mistakes that help us improve as leaders far more than our successes.
  2. Cultural intelligence is the ability to work effectively together when people are from different cultural backgrounds.
  3. The number one characteristic of a culturally intelligent leader is their curiosity.
  4. Culturally intelligent leaders understand what makes people different.
  5. Leaders should fight against the fear to learn from others.
  6. Leaders need to channel their curiosity and what they’re learning and turn that into a strategy.
  7. Leaders need to understand the culture they’re from and how adaptable their culture at their company is to people outside of their culture.
  8. Diversity has the potential to lead to innovation and growth, but only if the leaders have a high cultural intelligence.
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2018 Leadership Summit – 12 Leadership Quotes from Rasmus Ankersen

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Every year, my team and I attend the leadership summit. This year, there is a shadow hanging over the summit as I outlined here, but I’m still trusting that it will have some incredibly helpful content, just like in past years. To capture what I’m learning and to help you grow as a leader, I always share my notes from each session, so be sure to check back after each session and bookmark them for future use.

The first session of the second day featured a talk by Rasmus Ankersen. His talk focused on the mindset cultivated by successful brands to create sustainable success in our organizations.

The following are some takeaways:

  1. Your products reveal what your brand is like.
  2. Arrogance, complacency, and resistance to change can kill any company.
  3. Leaders must think through how to keep their companies fresh and away from complacency.
  4. One of the big problems for companies is outcome bias which is good results are always the result of superior decision making.
  5. Data never lies.
  6. The fewer goals in a game, the more randomness has an impact. That’s why the best team wins less often in soccer compared to basketball.
  7. Some data is more important than other data.
  8. When you are successful, you should always ask why you were successful.
  9. Never trust success blindly. 
  10. Too many companies hesitate to change, they wait until they have a burning platform.
  11. When we become successful, comfort becomes more important than improvement.
  12. One of the most important jobs of a leader is convincing people they haven’t reached the top.
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2018 Leadership Summit – 21 Leadership Quotes from John Maxwell

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Every year, my team and I attend the leadership summit. This year, there is a shadow hanging over the summit as I outlined here, but I’m still trusting that it will have some incredibly helpful content, just like in past years. To capture what I’m learning and to help you grow as a leader, I always share my notes from each session, so be sure to check back after each session and bookmark them for future use.

The final session of the first day featured a talk from one of my favorite speakers, John Maxwell. His book on leadership was the first book I ever read as a leader at 18 and thought, I can do this. He outlined how to maximize your impact as a high-character leader in our world today. It was fun having my two oldest kids in this session with me and have some excellent discussions.

The following are some takeaways:

  1. All leaders see more than others see and before others see.
  2. If you can see the bigger picture, you are the leader, but now you have to see before others see.
  3. The key to leadership is starting first.
  4. Leaders have to ask how I do increase my more and before?
  5. Know that there is more “more and before” out there (think abundance). 
  6. Creativity and flexibility are crucial in leadership today.
  7. Creative people believe there is always an answer.
  8. Flexibility says there’s usually more than one answer.
  9. Develop a process for finding more “more and more before.”
  10. The way you find more is to test.
  11. Test -> Fail -> Learn -> Improve.
  12. When you know what you want for your future, your mind will begin to think things that will help you get what you need; your heart will feel things that you need, your attitude will help you to believe.
  13. Put yourself in places with people who will inspire you to see more “more and more before.”
  14. Get people out of your life that drag you down.
  15. Be around people who inspire you.
  16. Intentionally grow every day so you will have the capacity for more “more and more before.”
  17. The only way to guarantee that tomorrow will be better is that you grow.
  18. If you’re still excited about what you did 5 years ago, you aren’t growing.
  19. Always have a vision gap that requires you to need more “more and more before.”
  20. You will fill the vision gap by asking God to send you the right people.
  21. You will fill the vision gap by asking God to do for you what you cannot do for yourself.
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2018 Leadership Summit – 23 Leadership Quotes from Danielle Strickland

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Every year, my team and I attend the leadership summit. This year, there is a shadow hanging over the summit as I outlined here, but I’m still trusting that it will have some incredibly helpful content, just like in past years. To capture what I’m learning and to help you grow as a leader, I always share my notes from each session, so be sure to check back after each session and bookmark them for future use.

The final session of the first day featured a talk from Danielle Strickland who looked at men and women in the workplace (and church) and looked at the challenges associated with power dynamics in organizational culture. This is definitely a talk that my tribe in the church world could learn from. It was fun having my two oldest kids in this session with me and have some good discussions.

The following are some takeaways:

  1. In order for the truth to set us free, we must be disrupted because truth disrupts us.
  2. To make changes and change minds you must be able to imagine a better world and understand oppression.
  3. We all want a better story and that is what everyone is after.
  4. What makes the world flourish is men and women working together.
  5. Believe that it is possible for men and women to work together. 
  6. Women’s empowerment is a key to so many things improving in our world.
  7. Believing that it is possible is to refuse despair. It is to confront the hopelessness of inequality.
  8. Do not be afraid.
  9. 2/3 of women are not optimistic that gender equality can be achieved in the next 5 years.
  10. The enemy in relationships isn’t hate but fear. -Gandhi
  11. If our actions, decisions are fear based we will either be oppressed or be an oppressor. Fear is the currency of oppression.
  12. Difference through the lens of fear is a threat. Difference through the lens of faith it is an opportunity.
  13. Mutuality is crucial for men and women to work together. The enemies of mutuality are power and sex.
  14. Power is the ability to manipulate the course of events. 
  15. How we use our power is the measure of our leadership.
  16. A misuse of power is coercion and threats: Are you kind to those you lead? Do you treat them well? Can you accept change? Do you cut people off when they’re talking? Do you close yourself off to feedback? Do you show regard for people’s opinions or feelings?
  17. Isolation is a misuse of power. Trust and support is a good use of power.
  18. Minimizing is a misuse of power. Honesty and accountability is a good use of power.
  19. Male privilege is a misuse of power. Shared responsibility is a good use of power. Do you invite women into your decision making?
  20. Great leaders use power to empower other people. 
  21. If we’re willing to listen to voices we don’t normally listen to and are willing to learn from them, it will change how we live.
  22. Never give up on the dream of men and women working together. 
  23. Real empowerment and real freedom is a long walk in the same direction.