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A few weeks ago, I was at the Drive Conference in Atlanta and heard Joel Thomas layout three important categories for leaders. Since then, I’ve been chewing on it because I think they are critical, and they also explain some frustrations we have as leaders if we don’t understand them.
Identity
Identity is who you are. Your role in life as a husband, wife, parent, friend, boss, and child of God.
These are also the roles you play outside of leadership and ministry; the hobbies that you have, the interests you give your time to.
This is hard for us to think about, but this is the foundation of leadership. Too often, as leaders, our identity is wrapped up in what we do or our ability.
Your identity is formed in a lot of ways that affect your leadership.
It started years ago in your family of origin. It is formed in early experiences in school and friendships as you grow up. Your experiences and the heartaches shape it, as well as the celebrations you experience through life.
If you grew up and learned not to trust people or that people can’t be trusted (real hurts), that shapes how you interact with people around you and how much trust you give to others. If you were raised to believe that what you did was the most important thing about you, that shapes how you go about leadership and teamwork.
Your story affects how you interact, show up, your motivations and how you trust or do not trust those around you.
Connected to this is understanding how you are wired. You need to know your personality, motivations, desires, and fears. You also need to understand the things you carry from your past: shame, hurt and other parts of your story.
Those things about you shape your identity as a leader and are easily overlooked.
Calling
Calling is what you feel like God has called you to do with your life.
We define that differently. And we talk about how that calling comes to us in different ways, but we have it.
Some feel called to be a pastor, in ministry, etc. You may feel called to leadership in the marketplace, a non-profit; your calling may be to eradicate something. But all of us have that calling.
We get tripped when we confuse identity and calling. They are connected but not the same.
And let me say this, being a pastor is a calling, but it’s also a job. A job that you will one day leave and retire from.
In many ways, identity is who you are, calling is what you do with that or because of that.
John Onwuchekwa said, “You HAVE a calling FROM God. You ARE a child OF God.”
Assignment
Your assignment is what God has called you to now. Your assignment right now might be to be a lead pastor, associate pastor, church planter, elder, or volunteer.
Your assignment is your current season. It may be just beginning. You may be ending an assignment and figuring out what’s next.
Again, we can confuse our calling with an assignment. We can also confuse our assignment with our identity. Many pastors and leaders don’t know where they end and where their church begins, which leads to all kinds of unhealthy things.
Assignments can last decades, and they can last for a year. Assignments can change at the drop of a hat when you aren’t aware.
These categories are critical to understand and keep separate. If we confuse them, we will find ourselves in some dangerous places as leaders and watch our hearts erode.
