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When you arrive at a church as a new pastor, there is a lot of excitement. There is also a lot of grief, some fear, and hope. How the last pastor left, whether it was good or not, whether he was forced out or not, how much time has passed, and what has transpired goes a long way to determining the culture you are stepping into as a new pastor.
You are also carrying things as a new pastor. You might be tired and worn out from the move for your family, grieving the losses you experienced, and exhausted from a job search. However, you are also excited about new beginnings and ready to hit the ground running.
As you arrive at a church, you will receive a lot of goodwill and trust because you are new, and people are excited. But if you aren’t careful, you will quickly find yourself stuck if you turn right when the church expects you to turn left. Many new pastors have made the wrong turn by using the wrong verbiage or version of the Bible or making a decision without asking the right person, even though the right person isn’t on the leadership team.
There are landmines at every job and church, things that sink your ministry before it gets started or at least slow it down and waste your trust bank.
The problem is that you aren’t aware of what these things are, and almost no one else is because they just happened over the years. Like your family, churches form a system that helps them function. Over time, the church falls into patterns of relating, communicating, making decisions, and functioning as a church.
In many ways, the church just happens.
People start new things, new leaders rise, and things “just get done over time.” This is especially important in a transitional time. Someone has to make decisions and ensure things happen, especially if there is no pastor.
The biggest thing that can trip up a new pastor is the things you don’t know.
One of the things you need to learn as quickly as possible is what has transpired in the church, how things get done, and what matters most. Sadly, some of these things won’t come up in the interview process because most people aren’t aware of them. Again, these are things that have just happened in their church.
Here are 3 things that trip up new pastors (or at least slow you down):
Not knowing who actually has power. In every church, just like in a family, someone holds the power. This power can be authoritative; it could be in finances or relationships. This power shows up in a variety of ways and different places. Someone might hold power in the church, the elder team, the men’s or women’s ministry, and the worship area. These might be the same people or different people.
One of the things you need to figure out as quickly as possible is who has power and influence in the church. If you misread this, you can be in a bad spot as a leader.
You can ask people to find out, but you can also observe it. Listen to who people say, “Have you checked with ______?” Watch in meetings to see who speaks last and sways the group. You can also ask, “Before I arrived, who made this decision?”
Not using the right words. Every church has a culture of words and communication. This can be the preaching style, worship leading, and how things are communicated from the stage or on social media. This can even be about the version of the Bible that the church is used to.
These can seem like small things, but they are big things to the church because they are used to them. Communication gives a sense of safety and belonging. Suppose the church is used to a 40-minute, expository sermon. As a new pastor, you should do that, no matter your preference. It doesn’t mean you can’t change it later on, but to get started, do what they are used to.
If the church is used to a particular version of the Bible during the preaching or specific ways of doing baptism or communion, do those when you first arrive. It can create an unneeded whiplash for the people if you don’t.
When I first arrived at CCC, I didn’t know there was a specific way of setting up communion. Before I arrived, the pastor did it a certain way, using a particular passage and specific words each time. On my first Sunday, I was asked to set up communion, and I did it the way I was used to. I heard from numerous people that I had done it wrong. They weren’t angry about it, but to them, it was not what they were used to. I started on the wrong foot with some people, which could’ve been avoided.
Not knowing the hurt or wounds people carry. The last thing that can trip you up is not being aware of the past and the hurts or wounds people carry. These might be obvious if the church has walked through a split, a moral failure, or a recent firing of the pastor. But they also might not be the ones that you are aware of. If changes were made that caused some volunteers to step out or be asked to step out, that would create hurt. Maybe before you arrived, the church did a building campaign that went poorly, and people lost trust and confidence in the leadership because money was misspent. Perhaps a beloved staff member was fired before you arrived, and you are left picking up the pieces for a decision you had nothing to do with.
You might wonder if there is a quick way to learn these things to avoid getting tripped up.
Yes and no.
If you come to a church in rapid decline, quickly losing members and money, you may not have time for this.
But in most situations, the best thing you can do is to come to a new church as a student. Ask questions, observe behaviors, and listen to the stories and legends people talk about. Watch who sways meetings and moments. See who gets things moving and gets things done. Watch who stops things and starts things.
Over time, you will pick up a wealth of information and begin to discern the way forward.