The Gift Leaders Give to Their Teams

I’ve worked as a lead pastor, church planter, campus pastor, and student pastor. I’ve sat on both sides of the leadership world, and what’s interesting is what people long for.

When you work for someone, you want many things, but one thing above all begins to rise to the top. When you attend a church, you want many things from its leaders, but one thing rises to the top.

This current world of covid, our political climate, the tensions around systemic racism has only heightened this desire from people.

What is it?

Clarity.

Clarity is one of the greatest gifts you can give your church.

The people who attend your church, the volunteers, the staff on your team, they want to know where they are going. They want to know where you are taking them. They want to see what you believe and why you believe it. When someone follows someone, they are putting their future hopes on the line with that person.

Why would that matter so much?

Clarity says this is where we are going. This is what is essential now. This is right; that is wrong. It helps everyone to know what they should or should not spend their time on, what the church should spend its money and resources on.

Years and years ago, Howard Hendricks said, “If it’s a mist in the pulpit, it’s a fog in the pew.”

That isn’t just about preaching, but so much more.

If a sermon isn’t clear, no one will get what you are talking about. If you don’t have a clear main point, application steps, people will feel lost.

But right now, it has become even more important for churches and leaders to be clear.

Are you having in-person worship gatherings? Why or why not? How long will you wait? What will make you return to in-person worship gatherings?

The reason this matters is it tells your teams what they should be working on. It also gives everyone a measuring stick that moves them out of their political opinions.

For example, many churches came out in March when they stopped meeting in person to say, “We aren’t doing any camps this summer.” That’s clear. It tells your church what you are focusing on. It shows your staff what they should or should not work on. Did those churches get angry emails? Yes. But they were clear.

Recently, Andy Stanley said that North Point wouldn’t have in-person worship gatherings until 2021. Right? Who knows. Clear? Yes.

One of the most deflating things that can happen on a team is for the leader to change the win mid-stream. It makes the team wonder, why did we work so hard if we aren’t going to go there? It also makes it difficult to know whether or not to throw everything behind a leader the next time he or she says, “This is the hill we’re climbing.” If your team has felt a lack of clarity in the past, they will wonder how much effort to give the next time you say something.

What keeps leaders from clarity?

For some, it is fear. It is easier to hedge your bets, wait to take a stand. But while you wait, you also miss opportunities. You also run the risk of your team, wasting effort on things that will never happen.

One thing that sneaks up on leaders is when it is clear to them, but no one else. Leaders must continuously ask their teams, “Is this clear?” That becomes monotonous to a leader, so they often don’t do it. They settle for the thinking, “Because it is clear in my head, it is clear to everyone,” and this is an invisible killer for leaders.

1 Leadership Lesson I Wish I Learned Sooner

Recently, I was talking to a brand new church planter. He was excited, anticipating what lay ahead for him.

He asked me, “What is one thing you know now that you wished you would’ve known when you first planted a church?”

I had to think. There are lots of things I wish I would’ve known. I wish I would’ve taken to heart rhythms and pace personally. That I would’ve poured more into my soul than leadership insight, that I would’ve put more emphasis on individual conversations instead of big numbers.

After a minute, I said, “I wish I would’ve understood that when it looks like nothing is happening, that something is happening.”

I grew up in a farming community, and farmers understand that there are seasons to their planting and crops. There is a season of clearing away branches, dirt, and weeds. There is a season of prepping the soil. There is a season of planting, watering, fertilizing. There is a season of harvesting the crops and selling those crops, enjoying the harvest.

Then there is a season where the dirt sits.

I didn’t understand or appreciate the season where the dirt sits. I pushed and pushed so that ministry was a constant pursuit of up and to the right.

This is true in the church, church planting, leadership, and relationships.

There is a season in a marriage where you are digging in, working on emotional health, navigating your family of origin stories, and trying to move forward. This is uncomfortable work, but necessary for a marriage to fully bloom.

In leadership, you must spend seasons working on your character, who you are, and who you are becoming so that when you get there, you have the integrity to sustain the work.

In a team, you must spend the seasons growing together, learning how to work together so that you can work together when the storms hit your group and organization.

We all love the planting season, the growing season, the watching new things take off, but for those to happen, we must have the seasons where the dirt rests. You, as a leader, must have the seasons where you rest, so you are prepared for the hard seasons ahead.

What Will Ministry in a Post-Covid World Look Like?

The other day, I was on a Zoom call with a bunch of pastors, and we were talking about what is working and not working in this new world. As the call went on, we started to discuss what will come next for churches.

The world is different today than it was in January. And while some think once everything opens up, life will return as it was, I don’t believe that. Yes, some things will go back to “normal,” but the world will be different, and consequently, the church will be and look different than it did in 2019.

That is exciting and scary all at the same time.

So, as I processed that call, I wrote down some questions I think churches and leaders need to think through:

How long will it take people to come back to church?

I’m finding there are two schools of thought on this: one group says that the moment churches are allowed to meet, everyone will flock back and fill up the room. The other side thinks people will be timid and come back slowly.

Who’s right? I have no idea. Only time will tell.

I fall into the camp that says people will come back slowly. I think there will be people who are there week one a church is back open, but also people will stay home and continue to watch online. Not only because of ease but also because of fear. And while some will say there shouldn’t be fear, there is. The job of the leader is not to wish a new reality, but to face reality and lead through it.

People may come running back to church; they may go back slowly. Will parents send their kids to school once they open, or will more parents homeschool next year? The answers to those questions will have an enormous impact on how ministry is done moving forward.

After watching church online, how will that change the way people view video teaching?

If you’ve been around church circles for the last decade, the debate around video teaching and whether or not online church counts has raged.

I think that after spending months watching church online and watching their pastor on a video will have an impact on how people connect with church and teaching in a post-covid world. What is that impact? Right now, it is hard to say, but I think the idea of watching a pastor on video won’t be as weird as many once thought it was.

Yes, people will still want to be in a room with a pastor, but will this change how they consume teaching?

How will this change people’s view of leadership and their confidence in leadership?

We live in a polarizing political world. Just look at social media, and you will see people throwing stones left and right. Regardless of your political view, most of us assume the other side is lying, not leading well, getting in the way, etc.

How do you lead in this world?

For those who feel like the government hasn’t done an excellent job in this crisis, have they lost confidence in leaders and leadership? How will that affect pastors moving forward?

If the government says, “you can gather with 100 or 200 people,” what does that look like for worship gatherings?

There is a chance that things will open up, but there are limited to the number of people who can gather. For smaller churches or campuses, this might not be a problem, but for larger churches, this could change things.

Do you pivot and do smaller gatherings and do them more often? On different days? Do you go to the venue route and have different styles of worship? What about teaching in those spaces?

Have we built a strong enough leadership pipeline?

Many churches are using more and more staff to do things right now because of safety and guidelines, but when churches are back together physically, the finances will be different than they were before. At that moment, as churches are rebuilding, the strength of your leadership pipeline will be seen.

The view of this crisis also seems to have different viewpoints, and most of that is seen through age. Many people over 45 view this differently than those under 45. How much of a voice does the under 45 crowds have in your leadership meetings right now? As you move forward?

How will this change how we do community?

One thing that will change through this is community and how we do groups. Yes, people will return to meeting in people’s homes for groups, but I think more people will see the value in an online group and want to do that.

I think we are also being reminded about how important community and presence is to our lives. We once took a hug from a friend for granted or sitting with someone and laughing over a cup of coffee. I don’t think we’ll take that for granted anymore.

How has this changed our view of life and death?

I’ve heard it said that by the end of this, everyone in the world would know someone who has died from this. I’ve already lost someone from covid-19. How does that change how we think about life, what is essential, and what we go after in terms of goals and priorities? What about death and what happens after death? Do we now view those differently? Do we focus on those a little more than we used to? Does that close us off and make us more callous towards life?

I don’t know for sure, but I think we’ll look at life and death differently.

The world is different and changing rapidly. This has always been the case, but it feels like it is overdrive right now.

And no, the world, school, work, and church will not go back to the way that it was before. Some things will return to what they are, but the vast majority of things will be different.

For leaders, this isn’t necessarily a good or bad thing, but just a thing.

The True Cost of Ministry

Picture this, your church just pulled off a big event, and you are sitting in a room evaluating it and deciding if it was a success.

The answers are often dependent on how excited you were before the event and during it — the number of people who attended, people who became Christians, or how you experienced the event.

Then someone asks, “Do we do this again next year?”

Now, if you are smart, you would stop the conversation at this point.

Churches are notorious for throwing money after things they’ve done before or something that someone else started without asking if it is worthwhile.

Most of the time, the question of worth boils down to the budget number on that white sheet of paper.

But what most elder teams and staffs miss is that the cost of an event or ministry is not just what is on that piece of paper. It includes that, but it is much more than that.

Here are a few questions you should ask as you evaluate an event or ministry:

How much did we pay staff to be there? When churches think about events, outreach, Christmas Eve, etc. they rarely factor in what they pay the team for the event. But this is a cost. Take whatever last big event your church did, add up all the staff hours, and what those staff members get paid per hour. That is a cost to your church for that event or ministry.

Now, it might be worth it.

But as a smart leader, you have to calculate that.

Let me throw another example out. Think back to the last meeting you had at your church. How many staff members attended? How much do they get paid per hour? Was that meeting worth what your church spent to have those staff members there? Did anyone check their email during the meeting? Social media?

What we pay staff members to do is a direct reflection of how we view stewardship as a church.

How many volunteer hours were spent on something? When it comes to a significant event or outreach at any church, hundreds and possibly thousands of volunteer hours will be taken up.

Those volunteer hours are hours that will not be spent on something else.

So, how can you make sure you don’t waste them? How do you make sure that it is worth it?

Many times, we don’t ask these questions; we plan an event and throw out the call for volunteers.

But why would they want to attend and help out? You must make sure that you attach a strong vision for something and make sure everyone knows why you are doing something.

What didn’t get done or got pushed back because of this event? No matter how amazing your staff is, when you pull off a big event or outreach, something won’t get done. That might be in terms of songs written, videos made, graphics produced, lessons, recruiting, or training might fall by the wayside.

Just like everything else on this list, that isn’t a bad thing — just something you have to factor in.

As best as you can, before hitting the yes button on something, try to list out what might get sacrificed because of something. Will there be an area of ministry that will suffer because of what you are trying to pull off? The reality is that something will fall off, but you have to factor that into the cost of something.

What was the wear and tear in terms of energy? One thing churches rarely ask is, “Is this the right season to do this?”

Churches fall into the trap of “we did this last year, so we have to do this again this year.” But what if you don’t have the bandwidth, energy, finances? Some years you can take a year off from something. There were times that Jesus walked away from the crowds and times that he walked into them. Both are acceptable and right at the right moment.

But just because you did something last year does not mean you need to do it this year.

Are you launching a campus? A new service? Did you hire several new staff members? What is the burnout rate of your team?

Remember, when you did it the first time or last time, that was a different season. Just like a family must continuously ask if now is the right season for this, so does a church.

Questions Leaders Need to Ask More Often

Recently, I’ve sat in several meetings or talked with different leaders, and the same situation has been repeating itself.

Imagine this scenario.

A team or church feels like they need to hire someone or add someone to the team, so they start brainstorming ideas. Who can we add? Names begin to get thrown out, and all of a sudden, the group begins to move people up and down the list of possibilities.

It might be a church that is trying to grow or move the needle in a ministry. People begin to share what they think is the problem or how can they fix that problem or what they believe the church should do that they aren’t doing.

In each of these situations, one of the critical things leaders miss is a crucial question.

What are we missing?

Who are we missing?

Too often, leaders assume they have what they need or need more of the same.

I sat in a meeting recently, and we were discussing adding someone else to the team. So we didn’t lose the energy around the idea, people started to share names of people who could serve alongside us. This isn’t necessarily wrong or a bad idea. But what struck me was that we weren’t sure who we would add or why, just that we wanted to. I asked everyone to take a step back and answer this question: Who are we missing? What perspective do we not have?

I think when people hire a team, they often overlook this. Many leaders, because they like people like them, hire and look for people like them. If you’re a visionary, driven leader like I am, you tend not to want people around who ask “why” questions. They feel like a stick in the mud or at least seem to be holding you back. But they might be the leader you need to move forward or protect you from a poor decision.

When leaders make a decision, whether financial, hiring, starting, or stopping a ministry, they don’t ask enough, “What are we missing?” What data don’t we have that we need? What data are we overlooking that we need to look harder at?

The reason is that many leaders are tasked with finding the answers. People come to us because we have a history of knowing the answers and who wants to follow someone who doesn’t know? At least that is what we think.

But when someone says, “This doesn’t make sense,” we shouldn’t shut them down or stop listening to them. We might be missing something that they see.

Because, the longer we are on a team, in a company or a church, the more we get used to things. It’s like when you move into a house, you immediately see things that are out of place, paint that isn’t bright or carpet that needs replacing. Over time though, you stop noticing. You work around that drawer that sticks and that outlet that doesn’t work all the time.

Leaders need those fresh eyes, just like when someone comes over and asks, “When are you going to fix that drawer?” We need to engage when someone tells us something isn’t clear, to complicated, or not hitting on all cylinders.

Otherwise, we might miss the right person for our team or the correct data that we need to excel in.

Pantano Southeast Campus

A lot of new things have been happening in my life.

On September 8, we announced that Revolution would be joining Pantano Christian Church and become Pantano Church – Southeast Campus.

It has been a wild ride since April when this conversation began between myself and Glen Elliott, the lead pastor of Pantano.

And yesterday, we announced this step at Pantano and challenged people to move from the East Campus and attend and serve at our campus as we prepare to launch on January 5, 2020.

The response was overwhelming. Every day I am reminded of God’s hand at work through this entire process, dating back a decade when Glen and I met. It is one of those times when I shake my head and think, “only God.”

Here is the announcement from yesterday at Pantano.

If you have questions or would like information about serving at Pantano Southeast, you can go here.

Here are a few things you can be praying for:

  • The people of Revolution as they continue to put the Kingdom First to reach more people for Jesus.
  • For people who are moving from Pantano East to jump in and start serving from day one. We had over 60 families sign up yesterday at Pantano East who signed up to move to our campus and serve and/or attend.
  • That our team would have wisdom as we walk with people through this change and help two churches become one church in multiple locations.

These are exhilarating days. Every day I am blown away by what God is doing. For me, I have always wanted and prayed about being a part of something that can only be explained by God, and this feels like it. I’m savoring every moment of this ride and trying to keep up with how fast God is moving.

What You Miss when You Skip Church

People skip church for all kinds of reasons. You wake up Sunday morning, and you’re tired, the kids are sick or cranky, your kid is on a sports team, you have work or errands to do.

The list goes on.

One of my favorite reasons given to me for why people skip church is: I didn’t think the message applied to me.

I’ve heard this a bunch of times on a host of different topics.

What lays underneath this are two important, and powerful lies.

The first, there are parts of the Bible that do not apply to me.

Now, this person wouldn’t say this outright. They would probably say that the Bible is God’s word and inspired. They would even say it is applicable. But when we say, “I won’t go to church today because I don’t think the topic (giving, evangelism, community, marriage, sex) applies to me and where I am.

Does it apply to them as much as the person next to them? Maybe not. But it shows what we think of the Bible when we say that. It puts us over the Bible and God when we say, “God, there’s a page in here that I don’t need to know about, it isn’t relevant to my life.”

Now again, when this person says I’m not coming to church, for this reason, they wouldn’t tell you this, but this is what they are saying.

The second, my presence at church doesn’t matter.

The church is a body, community, a family. When one is missing, an important piece is missing.

In our digital age, we have lost the power of our presence in people’s lives, and we’ve lost the power of their presence in our lives.

Whenever we skip church, we are saying, “There isn’t anyone at church who will need me to be there, and I don’t need any of those people today.”

Both are strong ideas, but they also tell us something.

The reality is, we can’t make it throughout the week without a community encouraging us forward. We need people to challenge us, help us change, support and inspire us, and help propel us forward. Even if that is only through a smile, a hug or a nod.

We’ve grown so accustomed in our life to thinking every experience has to be about us or an immediate benefit to us. Often, we don’t see the most significant things in our life until later. We also, don’t know what we do for other people til down the road.

Our presence in people’s lives is the same.

So yes, you won’t go to hell if you skip church.

But you will miss something powerful in your life. And so will your church.

What Churches and Pastors can Learn from Gridiron Genius

Recently I read Gridiron Genius: A Master Class in Winning Championships and Building Dynasties in the NFL and it is fascinating. I love anything to do with leadership and football, so this book was highly enjoyable and had so many leadership and business nuggets that I had to share my top 7. 

1. The ingredients of any successful business. According to Lombardi, “any successful business (church or team) will have a sound culture, a realistic plan, strong leadership, and a talented workforce.” Think for a moment about your church, business or team. Do you have these things? Are working towards them?

Without one of them, you will find yourself not reaching your full potential, and you will be frustrated and frustrate those on the team. Quickly, discouragement will set in, and it will be hard to move forward.

2. Vision, philosophy, and strategy first. Most pastors and churches planters get this wrong, and it brings a lot of harm and frustration. Start with your vision and strategy and then build your team. Too many churches have hired people that don’t fit their vision and strategy, and it is disastrous.

And pastors don’t miss this; people don’t usually leave your church because of doctrine, they often leave your church because of strategy.

This is why it is so important to have clear values as a church, a clear strategy that you talk about often and evaluate people on that before adding them to your team and giving them leadership roles.

3. Functioning as a team is more important than stars. Bill Belichick said, “It’s not the strength of the individual players; it’s the strength of how they function together.” Go to any church planting or pastors conference, and you hear pastors talking about looking for stars. When a church looks to hire any staff member, especially a lead pastor, their job description starts with “we’re looking for Jesus.”

But you aren’t going to hire Jesus, and you may not need a star. The strongest teams I’ve been on haven’t always been made up of the best people at their role but people who worked together incredibly well and made up for what the other person lacked.

4. Making a decision requires firmness, fairness, and fast. These are the 3 F’s of decision making from legendary coach Bill Walsh. If you’ve been in church any length of time, you know that firmness, fairness and fast are not what churches and pastors are known for when it comes to making a decision.

Yes, you want to make wise decisions and take the time you need, but often, churches could cut in half the time it takes and make a sound decision.

Most leaders suffer from cost sunk bias or fear of missing out on something and so we miss opportunities. Meaning, don’t necessarily think about what you’ve spent so far on a decision as that will cloud your thinking the right choice. Will you miss out on something? Probably but that’s okay.

5. Never squander an opportunity. Churches are not often thinking about possibilities. They are thinking about reacting to things. Do you spend time looking ahead? Do you know when the big days are of your church’s and community’s calendar year? Do you know when people are likely to be sick, on vacation, etc.? When you think about your preaching calendar, do you think about when the best time of a year to start a series is? For example, people think about specific topics in January, February, at the start of school, at the holidays, etc. Do you know what they are? Are you crafting a preaching calendar and events around those things?

If you aren’t, you’re squandering an opportunity.

6. Mimicking success rarely earns success. I’m guilty of this. So is every other pastor and church.

We go to a conference, hear about a successful ministry, how one pastor does small groups, preaching, worship services, kids ministry and come back and copy it and wonder, “why didn’t that work?”

Because we overlooked a whole host of things, that was someone else’s dream or vision. It fit their personality, context, and timing.

For example, I love so much about what missional communities do in churches and for a while we copied it and tried to make it work, but it didn’t fit me and the context of our city.

The last part is the timing of the church. This gets overlooked all the time in church circles.

Timing matters a great deal when it comes to churches growing. Many church plants survive and die based on timing, timing that has nothing to do with them.

7. The value of special teamers. This one is super important for a lead pastor to remember.

Special teamers on an NFL team are guys who are just trying to make the team. They aren’t starters but will do anything to make the team. They will run down punts and kicks, which is the most dangerous play in the football.

These are the people in yoru church who will do anything for your church. They are dedicated, serve, invite, pray and give, but they aren’t necessarily leading anything. Your church cannot survive without them.

Do You Love the Church You Work At?

Customers will never love a company until the employees love it first. -Simon Sinek

The title of this blog post might seem funny to you, but do you love the church you work at? Do you love the people in your church? Are you passionate about the mission, vision, and strategy of your church?

Let me ask it another way that an older pastor asked me: Would you attend your church if you didn’t get paid to be there?

Too many pastors and church leaders are merely showing up to work and collecting a paycheck.

And the people around them feel it.

Imagine what our churches would be like if the people leading them were so passionate about the mission, they would do whatever it takes.

This shows up in all kinds of ways. Here are some negative ones I’ve seen:

  • Leaders are not helping or serving when things need to be done.
  • Pastors who don’t give generously to their churches.
  • Pastors and leaders not in or leading small groups.
  • Leaders who are not inviting friends to their church.

Now, I know that no church is perfect and that every pastor or board isn’t fun to work for. I know that ministry is hard and that you pour yourself out and often you feel depleted.

This isn’t so much about loving your church as it is loving being a part of your church. 

The reason this matters is not only for your soul and feeling alive as a child of God and a leader but your church feels this, and it has an enormous impact on your church and the people in it.

It Isn’t Always a Bad Thing When People Leave Your Church

One of the most painful parts of being a pastor or leader is losing someone. Whether it is someone who attends your church, a leader or a staff member. It is personally painful, and it is painful to the church. Even when someone leaves because God is calling them somewhere else to start a ministry or be a part of a ministry, it is painful. Also though it is painful, it isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes it is God’s way of protecting you.

When I was in seminary I was on staff at a great church, and they had given me a ton of opportunities, and I was close to the lead pastor. God had opened some doors for Katie and me, and we felt like we needed to move to a new church. The problem was that we had committed a year to the church we were at, so we told this new church that we needed to finish our time. But the feeling didn’t go away.

I remember when I went to the pastor and told him what we were feeling, but that we would stay and finish our commitment because that was important to us. He looked at me and said, “If God is calling you somewhere, that means God is calling someone to come here and take your place. Who knows, they might already be here. If you stay, not only will you miss what God is calling you to, but that person will miss what God is calling them to here.” It was one of the most kingdom-minded, eye-opening moments of my life. That conversation has shaped my leadership and how I look at the way God moves. If God is sovereign (and I believe he is), then when He calls someone away to somewhere else, he is preparing someone else to jump in.

This doesn’t make it any less painful or hard. It just changes how you look at it. It is a reminder that you are not in charge or control and that is okay.