The True Cost of Ministry

Picture this, your church just pulled off a big event, and you are sitting in a room evaluating it and deciding if it was a success.

The answers are often dependent on how excited you were before the event and during it — the number of people who attended, people who became Christians, or how you experienced the event.

Then someone asks, “Do we do this again next year?”

Now, if you are smart, you would stop the conversation at this point.

Churches are notorious for throwing money after things they’ve done before or something that someone else started without asking if it is worthwhile.

Most of the time, the question of worth boils down to the budget number on that white sheet of paper.

But what most elder teams and staffs miss is that the cost of an event or ministry is not just what is on that piece of paper. It includes that, but it is much more than that.

Here are a few questions you should ask as you evaluate an event or ministry:

How much did we pay staff to be there? When churches think about events, outreach, Christmas Eve, etc. they rarely factor in what they pay the team for the event. But this is a cost. Take whatever last big event your church did, add up all the staff hours, and what those staff members get paid per hour. That is a cost to your church for that event or ministry.

Now, it might be worth it.

But as a smart leader, you have to calculate that.

Let me throw another example out. Think back to the last meeting you had at your church. How many staff members attended? How much do they get paid per hour? Was that meeting worth what your church spent to have those staff members there? Did anyone check their email during the meeting? Social media?

What we pay staff members to do is a direct reflection of how we view stewardship as a church.

How many volunteer hours were spent on something? When it comes to a significant event or outreach at any church, hundreds and possibly thousands of volunteer hours will be taken up.

Those volunteer hours are hours that will not be spent on something else.

So, how can you make sure you don’t waste them? How do you make sure that it is worth it?

Many times, we don’t ask these questions; we plan an event and throw out the call for volunteers.

But why would they want to attend and help out? You must make sure that you attach a strong vision for something and make sure everyone knows why you are doing something.

What didn’t get done or got pushed back because of this event? No matter how amazing your staff is, when you pull off a big event or outreach, something won’t get done. That might be in terms of songs written, videos made, graphics produced, lessons, recruiting, or training might fall by the wayside.

Just like everything else on this list, that isn’t a bad thing — just something you have to factor in.

As best as you can, before hitting the yes button on something, try to list out what might get sacrificed because of something. Will there be an area of ministry that will suffer because of what you are trying to pull off? The reality is that something will fall off, but you have to factor that into the cost of something.

What was the wear and tear in terms of energy? One thing churches rarely ask is, “Is this the right season to do this?”

Churches fall into the trap of “we did this last year, so we have to do this again this year.” But what if you don’t have the bandwidth, energy, finances? Some years you can take a year off from something. There were times that Jesus walked away from the crowds and times that he walked into them. Both are acceptable and right at the right moment.

But just because you did something last year does not mean you need to do it this year.

Are you launching a campus? A new service? Did you hire several new staff members? What is the burnout rate of your team?

Remember, when you did it the first time or last time, that was a different season. Just like a family must continuously ask if now is the right season for this, so does a church.

How to Make the Most of Your Christmas Break as a Pastor

Christmas is right around the corner, which means for pastors, one of the busiest days/weekends is right around the corner. It can be a huge challenge to balance work, family, traveling, parties, AND Christmas Eve services.

Because most pastors will be working on December 24th, I wanted to share some ideas I’ve learned over the years and will put into practice after Christmas Eve.

Enjoy Christmas Eve. This post is about recovering after Christmas Eve, but don’t be a Scrooge. Enjoy Christmas Eve. Enjoy the services, the singing, the energy and seeing new faces at church and maybe some you haven’t seen in a while. If you’re preaching like I am this year, enjoy it. What a gift to stand on stage and tell people about the God who came into our world so we could have peace. What a gift. And don’t forget to celebrate the gift of freedom Jesus gave you by coming to earth. The message you proclaim on Christmas Eve is for you, as well.

Now, onto the recovery and enjoying your break.

Watch some Christmas specials or movies. Or if you are tired of Christmas stuff, maybe you need to binge the new season of Jack Ryan or The Crown. But take some time and relax.

Read a book you’ve been dying to read. I’m a reader, and so are most leaders, so this is a great time to read a book you’ve been putting off. When I’m off work, I don’t read books about leadership or church ministry. Use this time to give your brain a break from thinking about work. This might be a good time to read a book for your own heart and soul.

Turn off social media and email. Hopefully, you are taking some days off. Our church is gracious and gives us a week off, so use that time to disconnect from work. Turn off social media (all anyone is posting is what they got for Christmas and pictures of snow, and you can catch up on that later) and your email. You don’t need to check it. Jesus came to earth and will continue to run things while you’re off work. It will be okay.

Have dinner with friends. I know, I know. You’ve been to tons of parties and around lots of people, and maybe you need some introvert time. But even introverts need relationships, and this is a great time to have dinner with people who recharge you and build you up. Make some time for that.

Take naps (several). Get some sleep. Don’t set your alarm. My kids will wake me up anyway. But get lots of rest.

Be active. You also need to move. You don’t need to set the world on fire and do a bunch of Crossfit workouts (unless that’s your thing), but moving is great for your body to recover from preaching.

Celebrate what God did on Christmas Eve. It’s hard for some of us to celebrate what God did at our Christmas Eve services because we’ll hear about the church that had 30,000 people when we didn’t have that many. But God didn’t call you to that church; He called you to yours, so celebrate what He did at your church. Every changed life is a miracle. And remember, there will be people at your Christmas Eve service who have never attended church before.

Watch some football. If you’re a football fan, this is an excellent week as there will be tons of great college football games on. So enjoy that gift.

Think through the new year. If you’re a new year person, begin thinking through what the coming year will look like. I do this process in June on my preaching break, but this can be a great time to pull out your personal goals and ask how you are doing and what needs to be adjusted as you hit the ground running in January.

Questions Leaders Need to Ask More Often

Recently, I’ve sat in several meetings or talked with different leaders, and the same situation has been repeating itself.

Imagine this scenario.

A team or church feels like they need to hire someone or add someone to the team, so they start brainstorming ideas. Who can we add? Names begin to get thrown out, and all of a sudden, the group begins to move people up and down the list of possibilities.

It might be a church that is trying to grow or move the needle in a ministry. People begin to share what they think is the problem or how can they fix that problem or what they believe the church should do that they aren’t doing.

In each of these situations, one of the critical things leaders miss is a crucial question.

What are we missing?

Who are we missing?

Too often, leaders assume they have what they need or need more of the same.

I sat in a meeting recently, and we were discussing adding someone else to the team. So we didn’t lose the energy around the idea, people started to share names of people who could serve alongside us. This isn’t necessarily wrong or a bad idea. But what struck me was that we weren’t sure who we would add or why, just that we wanted to. I asked everyone to take a step back and answer this question: Who are we missing? What perspective do we not have?

I think when people hire a team, they often overlook this. Many leaders, because they like people like them, hire and look for people like them. If you’re a visionary, driven leader like I am, you tend not to want people around who ask “why” questions. They feel like a stick in the mud or at least seem to be holding you back. But they might be the leader you need to move forward or protect you from a poor decision.

When leaders make a decision, whether financial, hiring, starting, or stopping a ministry, they don’t ask enough, “What are we missing?” What data don’t we have that we need? What data are we overlooking that we need to look harder at?

The reason is that many leaders are tasked with finding the answers. People come to us because we have a history of knowing the answers and who wants to follow someone who doesn’t know? At least that is what we think.

But when someone says, “This doesn’t make sense,” we shouldn’t shut them down or stop listening to them. We might be missing something that they see.

Because, the longer we are on a team, in a company or a church, the more we get used to things. It’s like when you move into a house, you immediately see things that are out of place, paint that isn’t bright or carpet that needs replacing. Over time though, you stop noticing. You work around that drawer that sticks and that outlet that doesn’t work all the time.

Leaders need those fresh eyes, just like when someone comes over and asks, “When are you going to fix that drawer?” We need to engage when someone tells us something isn’t clear, to complicated, or not hitting on all cylinders.

Otherwise, we might miss the right person for our team or the correct data that we need to excel in.

How to Lead When You Don’t know the Answer

All leaders know this feeling.

Someone asks you for a decision; you need to figure out whether to pull the trigger on an opportunity, to hire someone, fire someone, to move facilities, add a service, decide on a vision, mission, or strategy, and you don’t know what to do.

These moments feel like all of life slows down, and you move through the stages of grief.

That might be overly dramatic, but that is how it can feel.

You are the leader. Which means you are supposed to have the answer.

It feels like everyone is watching you and waiting on you.

It is okay in these moments to say, “I don’t know” or, “I need more time.”

A delayed answer is better than the wrong answer.

All leaders must learn how to lead through uncertainty and question marks. You have to lead when you don’t have all the answers or even all the information.

Many of the decisions I have regretted are the ones where I made a decision too quickly, without sleeping on it or spending any time to think through it. Honestly, it’s because I felt like if I didn’t jump on this opportunity or make this choice, I might miss out on something.

Would I miss something?

Maybe.

But the reality is that maybe I wouldn’t have. Maybe waiting would have revealed that I was making a mistake.

Yes, some leaders are paralyzed and don’t decide, so they miss things. But many leaders know the pain of a decision made too quickly. One that was a reaction, out of anger or fear or one that could’ve waited.

Why we Get Stuck in Life & Leadership

When I was closing in our my 40th birthday, I noticed something. I started to see it around 37 or 38, but I didn’t have words for it.

I started to notice that I had less energy than I did in my 20’s. Not just physically but also mentally, spiritually, and relationally. I also started to notice that some of the goals I had in my 20’s, things I cared about: being well known, having a large following online, or leading an enormous church, started to feel hollow. It isn’t that they were wrong goals; I just started to wonder if they were worth my time and energy.

I remember talking to another pastor who was about to move his church into a new, huge facility. It was the second building campaign he had led, and honestly, for pastors, he had reached the top. I asked him if he was excited, and he said, “I guess.” He said, “Honestly, this is great and all, but I wonder what I missed on the way to this.”

When you aren’t at the top of the mountain, it is hard to understand how people who get to the top can feel ambivalent or empty about it.

In my teens and 20’s and maybe this is or was right for you. You are proving yourself. You are figuring out what you are good at, what you will spend your life on, you are building your competency. Climbing ladders, stepping over people to get to the top, you are forging your way. 

For some of us, the change that happens in life is that those goals feel not worth it anymore, or we wonder, “what was I thinking.”

For others of us, we don’t hit those goals, and it is discouraging. 

For others, we hit all of our goals and wonder, is that all? We are convinced that hitting those milestones would feel a certain way, but they didn’t. 

I was talking to a counselor about this, and he told me, “Josh, that makes sense.” Of course, I leaned in and said, “tell me more.”

He said the first part of your life is about competency. The middle part of your life is about community, who you will do that competency with. You are figuring out what matters for the rest of your life. This is what David Brooks calls The two mountains

Then he told me, It’s the reason we feel kind of blah about life at different times. You run after things that you thought mattered, and at the time, they might have seemed like a huge deal, but now they don’t. He told me that is what you are searching for, and that is living a significant life

This is why, when you see a guy in his 50’s with an open shirt, a balding ponytail in a yellow Miata, we wonder what is wrong with him. He is still chasing after the first mountain.

The problem is that as we get older, we don’t have the energy to climb the first mountain. This is what leads many leaders to burn out and give up. If we can make the switch to understanding who we want to use our strengths and talents with, we last longer in the leadership game.

The problem, as many authors point out and many leaders discover, our world is built for the ladder climb for the company building. We are unsure how to navigate what comes after that. But sustainability is found in bringing these two mountains, these two circles of competency and community together.

2019 Leadership Summit – 15 Quotes from Craig Groeschel on The Power of Emotions in Leadership

Every year, my team and I attend the leadership summit and it is always refreshing, challenging and recharging for me. Easily the best leadership material in a conference that is out there. I try to share some of the highlights I took from each session.

Here are some thoughts from the session with Craig Groeschel on The Power of Emotions in Leadership:

  • Impressing you is not the same as connecting with you.
  • Emotions are relevant and important but they are the catalyst to growth.
  • The fastest way to change someone’s mind is to connect with their heart.
  • Knowledge alone rarely leads to action.
  • Knowledge leads to conclusion while emotion leads to action.
  • We must ask what do we want people to know, feel and do.
  • Share stories purposefully. 
  • Stories stick but facts fade.
  • Stories connect to the heart of emotions with the strength of logic.
  • Choose words deliberately. 
  • The words you choose determine the emotions that people feel.
  • Vision and values should inspire you and move you. If they don’t, they are too dull and safe.
  • Show vulnerability thoughtfully. 
  • We may impress people with our strengths but we connect through our weakness.
  • People would rather follow someone who is real instead of someone who is always right.

2019 Leadership Summit – 15 Quotes from Jo Saxton on Leveling up Your Leadership

Every year, my team and I attend the leadership summit and it is always refreshing, challenging and recharging for me. Easily the best leadership material in a conference that is out there. I try to share some of the highlights I took from each session.

Here are some thoughts from the session with Jo Saxton on leveling up your leadership:

  • Who were you before anyone told you who you were supposed to be?
  • Too many of us struggle with impostor syndrome.
  • We believe we are a fake and don’t deserve to be in the room.
  • Many of our stories create limits for us as a leader.
  • What we think is who we’re becoming.
  • The way you think about yourself is shaping your leadership.
  • The story we tell ourselves matter.
  • If your body could talk to you, what would it want to say?
  • If we don’t listen to our bodies, eventually it will speak loud enough that we won’t be able to ignore it.
  • You have one body and your leadership lives in it.
  • Who are your people?
  • Half of all CEO’s reported feeling lonely.
  • 60% of leaders say loneliness is affecting their performance.
  • There is loneliness when everyone wants an answer but you don’t have it.
  • Who are you leveling up as a leader? Who are you investing in to help them become great leaders?

2019 Leadership Summit – 10 Quotes from Dr. Krish Kandiah on Vision and Seeing Things Differently

Every year, my team and I attend the leadership summit and it is always refreshing, challenging and recharging for me. Easily the best leadership material in a conference that is out there. I try to share some of the highlights I took from each session.

Here are some thoughts from the session with Dr. Krish Kandiah on Vision and Seeing Things Differently:

  • Leadership is about seeing things differently than other people.
  • A visionary leader helps other people to see things differently.
  • Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to others. -Jonathan Swift
  • Leaders are called to see potential where others see trouble.
  • Leaders see hope where others see chaos.
  • You and I are more than the worst thing we’ve ever done or the worst thing that was ever done to us.
  • The opposite of prejudice is hospitality.
  • What legacy would be passed on to your children if you brought kids into your home that were in need?
  • Investment in people leads to loyalty.
  • The kitchen table is the most valuable part of your house because of the stories that are shared around them.

2019 Leadership Summit – 20 Quotes from Todd Henry on Leading Creative Teams

Every year, my team and I attend the leadership summit and it is always refreshing, challenging and recharging for me. Easily the best leadership material in a conference that is out there. I try to share some of the highlights I took from each session.

Here are some thoughts from the session with Todd Henry on Leading Creative Teams:

  • We should aim to be prolific, brilliant and healthy.
  • Creative people need a challenge.
  • Creative people need stability.
  • A leader needs to speak courage into the people who follow them.
  • If you have low stability and low challenge, your team is lost.
  • A leader needs to know how much stability and challenge each person on their team needs.
  • Never assume that your people are with you.
  • Trust is the currency of creative teams.
  • It is the little things we do that cause us to lose trust in the big moments.
  • Leaders need to declare undeclarables. 
  • We breach trust by pretending to be a superhero.
  • We fail as leaders when we push people away.
  • Insecurity is at the center of so many poor leadership decisions and actions.
  • The place of your insecurity is the place you have the potential to do the most damage to the people around you.
  • Your job as a leader isn’t to do the work or control the work, but to get the work done.
  • We have to transition from leading by control to leading by influence.
  • Leaders, you have to take care of #1.
  • If you are not inspired, you cannot inspire.
  • If you don’t take time to fill your well, you won’t have any overflow for your team.
  • You owe it to your team to know what prolific, brilliant and healthy look like.

2019 Leadership Summit – 6 Quotes from Jia Jiang on Rejection

Every year, my team and I attend the leadership summit and it is always refreshing, challenging and recharging for me. Easily the best leadership material in a conference that is out there. I try to share some of the highlights I took from each session.

Here are some thoughts from the session with Jia Jiang on rejection:

  • Rejection is a numbers game.
  • Someone will say yes to us at some point.
  • Rejection is an opinion.
  • We think rejection is all about us, but it isn’t.
  • Rejection is just someone’s opinion.
  • Rejection is growth.